It’s Monday and I thought I would share another Monday Thought with you if you don’t mind! This Monday I wanted to tackle the elephant in the room – making friends when your older.
We all go through a stage when we look around to see that the friends we thought we might have are no longer around and that we are surrounded by friends that are new and if your really lucky such very special friends that you have a long and great history with.
Years and years ago a passing friend mentioned this saying to me and I really really liked it and have used it ever since. ‘Friendship is for a reason, season or lifetime.’ I think this is so very true. You encounter people in your life that after the event you realise are there in your life for a short time and that is ok. You can probably identify those that last for a season or two and that can be fine as well and then there are those that are lifetime friends. I personally think if you have more than two that land in and keep in the lifetime category then boy oh boy are you super lucky.
Moving to a new city is deeply exciting but can be super intimidating too as you don’t know anyone and the older you get the more I have found it’s actually harder to make friends as at this time in your life it feels like everyone is established in their own friend land. That isn’t quite the way but if your on the outside looking in it can certainly feel that way.
It leaves you in the friendship dating land where you meet, and try each other on to see if you can become friends. Sometimes it works and other times it doesn’t but it’s just the way things are in our modern world. So as someone who has gone through this and believes we all in one way or another keep going through this here are five ways I have found good at at least getting you in new circles to see if you can friend date!
Meet Up this is a brilliant website that has groups for almost every hobby you can think of in your local area. It’s free to join and you just sign up, and give a description of yourself and request to join. From there you just simply once joined check your diary and take the plunge.
Smile seriously simply thing to do but a smile makes you way more approachable and whilst your probably seriously nervous but take a deep breath and just try it. Smiling is far more likely to get a conversation started and for that well the world is your oyster.
Take a class being around folks with the same interests gives you a legitimate in as you know you both like x.
Say yes when you feel like saying no the hardest thing to do but if your invited somewhere go. I know its cold, wet and yucky out but make an effort honestly not only will you have fun but it will lift your spirits.
Be ok with you I know it sort of goes against all of the above but if you are comfortable in your own skin is glows from every pore you have. I think it’s so important ladies to remember that regardless of anything else you’ve got going on you must remember and believe that you are enough.
I won’t lie making friends when your older is like a form of dating and requires you to put yourself out there, try different things and reach quite far out of your comfort zone. And just like dating you’ll meet a lot of frogs and that’s fine but if your lucky and I am sure you are you will come across a friend and that well that makes all the effort worth it. Good luck my dears.
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